***Disclaimer and Content Warning! The Transgender Community is very diverse and my opinion while based on definitions may not define every person in the Non-binary Transgender community. Also in the definitions could be some old terms that are now modern-day considered slurs.***
In the Transgender community, it is common, if not an everyday occurrence, that outside and inside of this community, Non-binary folks are targeted as “Not Trans Enough” to be Transgender. As you probably assume, this is extremely problematic. The Transgender community is one where everything can be sensitively subjective. One wrong step one way can lead someone to have extreme dysphoria about what you’ve said. One wrong step the other way can lead to someone having self-doubt and unnecessary exclusion from the community.
Being Transgender is already a confusing and anxiety/depression-inducing to be. Being Non-binary is tricky too because you don’t feel like a man, or a woman, you’re just you. You’re just in between. Or feel disconnected from gender. Or Gender queer in a way that is fluid, that you feel more than one gender or change off per day based on your feelings and dysphoria. These gender Identities are widely criticised in the community by TERFs (Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists), as well as Truscum and Transmed individuals too. They argue that the only kind of Trans is the kind that you want to only change your sex to the complete opposite, and also are typically the kind of folks who still believe that sex and gender are the same concepts when many sources have established that they are not. These are also the type that believes that you have to medically transition to be Trans. And that you are not even Trans until you have fully medically transitioned. This is Balogne. Hogwash. Simply not true.
The definition of Transgender is:
- “Having changed gender identity from male to female, or from female to male.” (Compare transsexual.)
- adj. “Not identifying with culturally conventional gender roles and categories of male or female; having changed gender identity from male to female or female to male, or identifying with elements of both, or having some other gender identity”.
Just to get a second opinion lets put another one in here:
“Noting or relating to a person whose gender identity does not correspond to that person’s biological sex assigned at birth: the transgender movement; transgender rights”.
And an explanation:
“The term transgender has largely replaced the older term transsexual, which is now considered outdated. Transgender is a less clinical term, referring more to gender identity and gender expression than to sexual orientation or physical sex characteristics. It is also a more general and inclusive term: a transgender person may be gay, transsexual, transvestite, or even genderqueer. Use of transgender as a noun is declining in use and is usually taken as offensive. And people object to the adjectival variant transgendered because the –edsuffix could imply that something happened to make the person transgender.”
I like this explanation a lot because it explains how the term has evolved over the years to include so many other gender identities, and to prove that nothing “hurt us” to become Transgender. And nothing “made us” Become Transgender. And we are also not doing it for a “trend”. If we were, it’d be a debilitating one at that. Non-binary and other Gender-queer Identities just want to be recognized, and when you are shut out of this community that you identify completely with, it is very discouraging. For your transition and for the support that you might desperately need.
Let us also define Gender Identity:
“Gender identity is one’s personal experience of one’s own gender. Gender identity can correlate with assigned sex at birth or can differ from it. All societies have a set of gender categories that can serve as the basis for the formation of a person’s social identity in relation to other members of society. In most societies, there is a basic division between gender attributes assigned to males and females, a gender binary to which most people adhere and which includes expectations of masculinity and femininity in all aspects of sex and gender: biological sex, gender identity, and gender expression. In all societies, some people do not identify with some (or all) of the aspects of gender that are assigned to their biological sex; some of those people are transgender, genderqueer or non-binary. There are some societies that have third gender categories.”
“Core gender identity is usually formed by age three. After age three, it is extremely difficult to change, and attempts to reassign it can result in gender dysphoria. Both biological and social factors have been suggested to influence its formation.”
This definition is spot on and beautiful. It mentions that Non-binary folks exist in all kinds of societies and cultures, and I think this should be respected. Your gender Identity causes Dysphoria, which yes can be related to wanting to have opposite parts on or off your body, or you can have social Dysphoria which is society using the wrong names, pronouns, or simply the societal expectations that they push upon you from an early age that make you feel extremely wrong. While the “typical” transitional method that we see for Trans folks in the media is that they have to fully medically transition into male or female, it simply is not true. Gender identities in between often just change their name, use new pronouns, and express themselves to the world the way that they’re comfortable. And I know many Trans folks who only do this, and then their transition is complete. They are who they need to be.
For myself, it is all of those above plus possibly top surgery, however, I probably will not want bottom surgery. And that’s okay. While I have dysphoria connected with my chest, I do not currently have any that I know of connected to my other bottom-area parts. That could change in the future. However, It is okay if it never changes and I never get bottom surgery. I will be who I am meant to be anyway, and it will be done. And no matter what, I am still Transgender today, I am still Transgender once my name is fully changed, once my pronouns are used, And I will be Transgender up until my top surgery and after. And that’s the truth. Thanks for listening.
PS. for more information on the Non-binary Gender Identity I have a whole Scholarly sources list now! On a page in the menu!